Most people go through adversity (physical, mental, spiritual, emotional, social, financial) at some stage in their life. However, being able to share your story or your feelings is vital to the healing and wellness process.
The healing process requires support from your family, friends, or a community of others who have also experienced the loss of a child, which allows you to feel that someone else “gets it,” they understand and feel your pain. There is no rule book, no judgment, and absolutely no timeframe.
trusted relationship
What if I told you my most trusted relationship today began in the midst of my emotional adversity of loss?
Most people share your pain, while it is happening in the moment, and most people are gone as time goes by, but there are a few who were merely acquaintances, distant relationships that remain constant in your life after the season of grief seems to dissipate. How do we include those new people in our lives? On the other hand, we do lose people whom we thought were close friends.
readjust your lifestyle
How do you readjust to a new normal, a new lifestyle shift?
Pauline Boss, PHD writes “You will forever remember someone you love, but the goal is to find meaning in your loss—and new hope.”
Jamal was my only son, a first generation black American, was tragically struck by an automobile of a hit and run driver (sex unknown at this time) as he rode his bicycle in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, on April 16, 2016, and was placed on life-support.
Jamal would then be removed off life-support and die two days later of brain injuries, on April 18, 2016. Seven of his organs and his tissues were donated to others in threatening need of receiving human life.
journey
As a resolute mother or any parent’s journey, which is spirit-led, navigates through Adversity for justness beginning from
The acceptance of the human/mortal death of my son, and put my Faith in God
Go inwardly, be quiet and stay still, in order to endure this horrific grief, while mourning my own’ soul’s spiritual reaction to human death, and putting my Faith in God.
The day-by-day struggling through my inward life to developing compassion for my son’s killer, reaffirmed my faith in God.
The fight outwardly once again for spirit-led human living by evolving through this adversity with compassion by Faith in God.
Rising from great depths to greater heights with a renewed spiritual faith in God to an acceptance level of spiritual growth and spirit-led human living by acting on ‘principles that are higher than oneself’ to put my Faith in God
I have learned that pain makes you stronger, that you develop your purpose through your pain, you become connected to the pain. You never forget your first heartbreak, the loss of a child. “Pain pushes you until your vision pulls you.” Through grief and pain, I am now connected to thousands of people who have yet to experience pain and I get to be the game-changer.
I have asked empowering questions to God and the universe, what is my purpose through my grief and pain? How should I share this feeling to the world? Where do I start–birth or death?
I am commissioned to be the vessel that helps to empower grief-stricken parents to find meaning and purpose through their grief and pain by integrating and managing this new normal into their everyday life. As we move from pain into purpose, we’ll find and leverage opportunities to build on our child’s legacy, we’ll create activities to help others.
We’ll create nonprofit organizations that will change the lives and health of families undergoing adversities. And most importantly, we’ll discover how to help from anywhere, to do what you enjoy, to serve and be a blessing to families and communities.
“Do you not know that a man is not dead while his name is still spoken?”
– Terry Pratchett